Baby bag packed? Check. Childbirth Ed and Breastfeeding classes? Check. Birth Doula? Check. Congrats Mom2be you're totally ready to rock this birth. At least that was the pep talk I gave myself the first time around. I mean I had prepared for my birth like I was going to the olympic games. So when my labor finally started I felt confident, empowered and ready to do this. Fast forward 4 hours to when I crossed the finish line, my event ended and I had a shiny new trophy to show for it, my daughter. The manifestation of my heart and soul now lied calmly on my chest and just like that I was apart of a scared society, Motherhood.
Now we were home and desperately trying to make this transition to life with a newborn as smooth as possible. I mean I read the books, I took the classes but reading it and living are two different things. I was sleep deprived, nursing around the clock, my nipples hurt, my house was a wreck, and to top it off I was wrestling with postpartum depression…
I could go on and on about what I experienced as a new mom with little to no support in the first 4 week but instead I want to tell you what I learned the second time around.
HAVE A POSTPARTUM DOULA!!!
Many pregnant persons (first time parents and seasoned alike) are unknowing of the impact giving birth will have on you physically, mentally and spiritually. It takes 10 months for a woman to grow an entire human being and at the precise time her body preforms the miraculous task of birthing a new soul from one world to the next. That is no simple feat.
“It took my body 10 months to grow a baby, I give my body no less than 10 months to replenish itself”
I encourage all pregnant persons to explore hiring postpartum support. Having a plan and a support system in place will allow you to truly recover from birth, the opportunity to revitalize oneself and make the transition into motherhood peaceful.
When preparing to bring new life into the world, in this society we tend to focus on gender reveals, showers, place of birth and labor support; but often neglect the postpartum period, which begin the first days after birth. When exploring postpartum support for the first time, a good place to start is by asking yourself:
What does postpartum support look like for me?
No one is better equipped to answer that question than you. We all come from different walks of life, have different circumstances and demands. Becoming very clear on what you need in terms of support is paramount. Once you start answering these questions for yourself it becomes apparent why having postpartum support would be beneficial.
What is a Postpartum Doula?
Postpartum Doulas are well informed post birth aide who comes with a wide array of ways to assist families. An example of how Postpartum doulas can assist families after birth are with:
Nutrition to encourage replenishment of vitamins and nutrients for Mother
Lactation and feeding support
Caring for older children while bonding with baby
Becoming a parent is sometimes intimidating, exhausting and overwhelming. Hiring a postpartum doulas is a wonderful way of easing the stress of new parenting. When a mother gives birth to a baby a family was born. During this sacred and delicate time after birth the entire family needs to be support and uplifted through this transition. Websites like doulamatch.com can link you to doulas in your area, google search of postpartum doulas can be helpful or asking for referrals of postpartum doulas from your midwife or obgyn are a few resources of selecting the right doula for you.
If you are in the New York City area and would like more information on hiring a birth and or postpartum doula, we’d love to hear from you. Email us at firstname.lastname@example.org